In Person and Video Sessions Now Available throughout California. Weekend Appointments Available.


Relationship Counseling

Relationship Counseling addresses Dating, Marriage, finding Right Relationship and experiencing more Love. Overcoming worry or fears of failure, rejection and standing up for yourself when facing conflict.

Highly Effective Practical Tools
To Strengthen Your Loving Relationship

Empathy Tool Kit Provided
Compassion-Resilience Spoken Here

You are seeking more joy.
You wish to be loved, even cherished and included in this great adventure – called life.

I see the best in you.

Ilene Wolf, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 30 years

Offices conveniently located in
San Francisco Bay Area and Marin


Ilene Wolf, MFT, RDT/BCT

What Clients Say…

“Ilene Wolf is a strong, bright and clear teacher and therapist who creates a lot of depth, safety, and connection in a very short period of time.” ~ Lorraine Platt

“Ilene is a Rockstar of a therapist. Both my wife and I have seen her and we agree we have seen more progress on issues in the few meetings we had with her than with all the meetings we had with several other therapists.” ~ Steve L.

“She really does care, and it feels great to be on the receiving end of that. If you want someone who gives it her all, who’s a true champion for her clients, you’ve got to meet her.” ~ Andrew K.

“Ilene is not only a skilled and seasoned therapist, but also has a huge capacity for compassion and empathy, and to grasp the essential questions and essence of her clients’ needs in her unique style of therapy.” ~ M.G.

“Thank you so very much for your clarity and compassion; You are, Ilene yourself, a most exceptional, seasoned clinician.” ~ Eric Greenleaf, Ph.D.

“Ilene sets the bar for therapists. She’s a lighthouse for those who feel stuck, lost, or alone. ~ Che M.

“Ilene brought monumental changes to my life and has helped me deal with some issues that were never really helped by previous therapists.” ~ G.S.

Improve every aspect of your life- on the sooner side.

Empowering you with highly effective practical tools and relationship counseling to create a phenomenal life. Life can work for you, I can show you exactly how.

Utilizing Stanford research, CBT, The Buddhist Practice of Loving Kindness and Effective Communication Tools, you can start feeling better today. For the past 30 years, I have helped 100s of individuals, couples and families. Group Therapy is also Available. Cultivating Authentic Connection.

If money or time is a factor: Highly Effective Brief Solution-Focused Therapy is also available.

Nothing gets done without doing it!



Grief, Anguish and Despair
Anger and Hurt


Fear of Rejection and Conflict
Procrastination and Perfectionism
PTSD, Insomnia, Phobias and OCD


Addiction and Recovery

Alcohol & Drugs
Smoking Cessation
Compulsive Shopping and Eating


Children and Teens

Academic Performance
Dealing with Bullies/ Making Friends
Defiant and Oppositional Kids



Interactive Experiential Therapy
Brief Solution-Focused Therapy
Weekend Intensives for Immediate Relief

“The parts where I am absent is where my past still has a hold on me.
That absence needs to be illuminated.” ~ Thomas Hübl

We cannot change that which we are not engaged with…

You can let go of experiences that have hurt you that you would like to leave behind.

Promoting Deeper Awareness, Health & Healing for 30 Years with 100s of Individuals, Couples and Families

Resilience Spoken Here

Ilene Wolf’s Blog – Musings & Letters

Letter from a Therapist Sheltering in Place during Covid-19

Letter from a Therapist Sheltering in Place during Covid-19

Hardship lives in each one of us, and yet we are sturdy and resilient in ways we might not recognize or acknowledge nearly enough. This can be a time of Self-Reflection about what to do, as a therapist, with this precious life. What contribution can we be to each...

Social Courage in the Face of Anger and Hate

Social Courage in the Face of Anger and Hate

Meditations on Anger and Metabolizing Grief and Hate- Not easy but a worthwhile practice I teach people practical tools to maintain their presence in the face of anger. Politically or in the therapy office, Anger is not going away any time soon. As a couples...