Excellent and wonderful knowledge to share and teach, from Santa Cruz- Bolivia is forever grateful!” -T. Valentin, Faculty at The University of Santa Cruz, Bolivia

Winner of the California Marriage and Family Education Foundation Award (2012)

Public Speaking

“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”—Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Public Speaking – CBT Combined with Clinical Hypnosis and Interactive Therapy and Role Play -to get over fears of all kinds

Teaching Workshops

Onsite Inservices and Training for Business Leaders,
Social Workers, Psychiatrists and Teachers

I provide continuing education and certification (CEUS) on a wider range of topics including addressing anxiety, depression, fear of anger and conflict, writers block and procrastination, test anxiety, habit and addictions, applications of CBT, Narrative and Expressive Arts Therapy and psychodrama.

I have been a guest speaker at conferences and taught both internationally and at local Universities including at UC Berkeley, JFK and Sonoma State University.

 

 

Some Recent and Upcoming Workshops and Keynotes

San Francisco, California – Produced all day event and lead workshops on The Gift of Forgiveness; Working Effectively with Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Conflict, September 2024

San Francisco, California – The Secret Tool Box: Action Methods and Drama Therapy when working with non-verbal Kids, Teens and their Families | APA Family Support Service, May 2024

Freemont, California – California Humanities Grant Saudade – Bittersweet Joy & Sorrow: Utilizing Drama Therapy when working with Immigrants and Refugees in the US | Freemont Public Library, August 2022

Hermosillo, Mexico – Highly Effective Evidenced Based Practices to Address Conflict and Bullying – December 2020

Alameda County – Psychological Association at UC Berkeley – Interactive Psychotherapy and Clinical Hypnosis to Overcome Anxiety and Fear of Conflict – November 7, 2020

Phoenix, Arizona – 40th Anniversary of The International Congress of Ericksonian Hypnosis and Psychotherapy; Milton Erickson Foundation, “It’s all Their Fault! Interactive Couples Therapy: Utilizing Interactive Hypnotherapy and Drama Therapy Approaches in Creating More Loving Dialogues and Giving Up Blame!”  – December 2019

San Mateo County – Star Vista Children and Family Programs – Brief Solution-Focused Training Program – August 2018

Bolivia – University of Santa Cruz – Drama Therapy Workshop: Addressing Bullying in the Workplace and on the School Playground – November 2017

Marin County – Couples New Years Convention – Dating out of your League – January 2017

Hong Kong – University of Hong Kong Medical School- How to Successfully Address Fear of Conflict and Anger; How to be a Relationship and Couples Counselor Utilizing Stanford Evidenced-Based Research – August 2016

Mexico City – Key Note for Couples and Sexuality Conference – Highly Effective Techniques when working with clients dependent on porn; triangulation with Infidelity; and how to address consent and teens and premarital sex – April 2016

 

Building Social Courage When Facing Challenging Situations or Difficult People

The Secrets of Effective Communication

Dedicated to anyone who is afraid of conflict and who wants to find more confidence when faced with anger, but traditionally has been tempted to either withdraw, back away or defend themselves; this workshop can make for good and even better relationships. One of the main reasons that we tend to be avoid conflict is that few of us know have been taught the strategic tools to address it effectively.

 

The Five Essential Communication Skills

These Five Essential Communication Tools come from the latest Stanford research (David Burns, Author of Feeling Good Together, Advance Applications of CBT and founder of TEAM Therapy) and provide a “roadmap” to practice which will allow you to learn how to be highly effective in difficult conversations. This approach can help each of us in our most difficult and challenging relationships or friendships or working as therapists, teachers or leaders in business, to find a natural ease when facing anger, ultimately being successful in ways we previously thought impossible.

TEAM therapy states that the core problem in the treatment of relationship problems is the connection between blame, denial and power. As long as we continue to blame the other person and deny our own part in creating or maintaining the problem, we remain powerless in creating positive change in the relationship.
~ Maor Katz, MD. Feeling Good Institute

 

Forgiveness Workshop

Six Steps to Forgiveness and the Art of Releasing the Past

Forgiveness is not an occasional act – it is a permanent attitude.~ Martin Luther King

 

Recognize the Universality of Suffering

Do you find yourself feel angry and hurt in social situations?

Would you like to break free from defensive patterns that no longer serve you?

Are you strongly affected by other people’s emotions, particularly anger and disappointment?Do you sometimes have high ideals and even perfectionism which sometimes leads to addictive behaviors?

If you didn’t care so much if people liked me, would I make different choices?

 

Be the Person You Are Looking For

Come to terms with the obstacles that repeatedly keep you from getting what you want and need in relationships.

• Learn how to cultivate unconditional love and positive regard for yourself and others.
• Learn how to sustain cherish and provide loving-kindness for yourself and others.
• Be the love that you want to find and are looking for in this world.
• Remember, you are an essential ingredient to life.

 

Creating Empathy Circles-Helping kids to feel happy and appreciated

Building a Safe Context for Children to learn social excellence

1:1 Therapy and Children’s Leadership Circle and Parenting Stewardship Programs

• Help kids overcome anxiety, fear of rejection, fear of conflict, and fear of failure.
• Build a safe context for children to learn how to handle anxiety, while feeling happy and appreciated.
• Help children to overcome negativity, depression, anxiety, perfectionism and performance issues in school.
• Help children to find acceptance: parents’ divorce and separation, sadness and anger, losses within the family.

 

Teaching Workshops

Onsite Inservices and Training for Business Leaders,
Social Workers, Psychiatrists and Teachers

I can provide continuing education and certification (CEUS) on a wider range of topics including addressing anxiety, depression, fear of anger and conflict, writers block and procrastination, test anxiety, habit and addictions, applications of CBT, Narrative and Expressive Arts Therapy and psychodrama.

I have been a guest speaker at conferences and taught both internationally and at local Universities including at UC Berkeley, JFK and Sonoma State University.

Call me. Most people find results right away.

Ilene Wolf, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists,  MFT

415 420 3619

You will begin to feel hopeful, confident, motivated,
and more able to greet the day.

 

You will notice how confident, motivated and happy you can be.