What is to give light must first endure burning.~ Victor Frankl

Conflict resolution

Learn how to resolve conflicts in your relationships

Growing up, most of us have been taught  to avoid conflict at all costs, so when we reach adulthood, we have no clue as to how to manage our anxiety about the many aspects and facets of relationships.

All relationships problems stem from blame and anger unexpressed.
Thinking and Demanding that others should believe or act exactly as I do just sets me up for anger, frustration, and discouragement.
But if you rely on ideals and have high standards, how best to make sense of human frailty and imperfections?

If I could show you some practical communication tools to successfully sustain a loving connection and meaningful conversation and intimacy to go on to overcome long standing hurt and anger would you be game?

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao Tzu

Resentment is the #1 killer of long-term relationships. Growing up, most of us have been taught  to avoid conflict at all costs, so when we reach adulthood, we have no clue as to how to manage our anxiety about the many aspects and facets of relationships — or to dare to ask for what we want.

Using highly effective evidenced-based CBT tools for conflict resolution, I can show you how to resolve this conflict within yourself and within your relationships.


First Step: Empathy and Listening

Call me. Most people find results right away.

Ilene Wolf, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists,  MFT

415 420 3619

You will begin to feel hopeful, confident, motivated, and more able to resolve conflict quickly.


I am here for you.


I see the best in you.

Ilene Wolf, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 30 years

Office conveniently located in
the San Francisco Bay Area

“A Rockstar of a therapist…”

“Ilene is a Rockstar of a therapist. Both my wife and I have seen her and we agree we have seen more progress on issues in the few meetings we had with her than with all the meetings we had with several other therapists. She quickly helps you see deeper layers of your issues and teaches you new tools to have better results. We have a three hour drive to see her and she is really worth the hassle of the drive.”
– Steve L.


“Deep, kind, smart and fun…”

… Ilene is a great therapist to turn to when life becomes challenging, complicated or when you need someone to help you navigate life’s inevitable changes or demands that you grow as a person. If you’re struggling in your relationships; or depression and anxiety are making life way too difficult, Ilene can be a great ally in your journey to a better life.
– Dave T.

“I experienced profound changes…”

“I experienced profound changes, in my relationship with my husband and the people I work with. Nothing short of amazing. “
– S.G.


“Made a critical difference in my life…”

“I have tried several therapists. Ilene’s sessions made a critical difference in my life. Ilene cares deeply and helped me build trust back into my relationships.
Ilene has helped my family beyond the regular measures. I recommend Ilene Wolf, MFT, RDT, I know she can help where most others fail.”
– R.A.