Current research reveals that at least 25% of men have had at least one extramarital affair, while at least 15% of women have had an extramarital affair.


Finding Courage to Love Again

If your partner has had an affair….don’t wait for things to get better.

3 different possibilities and paths to resolving any problem you might face:
Accept it, Change it, or leave.
If it is not possible to accept it, change it, and if you are not willing to change it, then you can leave it.

I have over 30 years experience as a licensed MFT working in the San Francisco Bay Area, helping hundreds of clients find deeper love and happiness; to be more authentic; and to lead more meaningful lives.

Deciding whether or not to stay or leave your relationship?

Are you afraid to show or admit how much you actually do care?

If you do decide to stay, I can give you three steps to show you how to forgive; how to improve the situation; and how to find ways to rebuild trust with your partner.

I am here for you. I provide essential support amidst the confusion and feelings of fear of loss and betrayal. I can show you how to build more optimism and find the necessary confidence to move on.

To Love Yourself-no matter what

Discover how to deepen trust in yourself while you consider how to grow and enhance loving relationships.

How to Save Your Marriage

“The Heart is a Rage of Afflictions” ~ Leonord Cohen

Lawyers charge $600 an hour! Relationship counseling is far less expensive than divorce!

As you decide what to do to move forward- honoring the anger and grief, feeling devastated, betrayed, ultimately deciding whether or not to rebuild, forgive and forge a stronger bond with your partner and ultimately make for a stronger relationship – or, if you do instead decide to separate, I am here to support you.

Meeting the Challenges of Dating Again:

Learning how to overcome your fear of being hurt again
Rebuilding your life: Getting used to being single and living alone again

Are you caught in the habitual tendency to judge yourself or others? Do you keep marrying “the same person” over and over again? Are you susceptible to Fears of Inadequacy, feelings of Jealousy and Resentment?

If you are Struggling with a tendency to choose unhealthy relationships, we can work on how to successfully confront fears of intimacy, of losing control or merging with your partner, or fears of loss and abandonment. All Relationships challenge us to overcome our insecurity, uncertainty and disappointment.

Therapy is an interactive process in which each session, I provide you with tools to overcome long-standing loneliness, hopelessness, stress, and anxiety.

If you have decided to go outside your relationship, or are even contemplating the possibility of straying, or feel stuck (either struggling with constant boredom, or longing for sex-worth-having), I am a relationship expert with over 30 years, working as a marriage and dating specialist, and I can help you.

Call me. Most people find results right away.

Ilene Wolf, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists,  MFT

415 420 3619

Safe. Confidential. Professional.


I am here for you.


I see the best in you.

Ilene Wolf, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 30 years

Offices conveniently located in
San Francisco Bay Area and Marin

“A Rockstar of a therapist…”

“Ilene is a Rockstar of a therapist. Both my wife and I have seen her and we agree we have seen more progress on issues in the few meetings we had with her than with all the meetings we had with several other therapists. She quickly helps you see deeper layers of your issues and teaches you new tools to have better results. We have a three hour drive to see her and she is really worth the hassle of the drive.”
– Steve L.

“Deep, kind, smart and fun…”

… Ilene is a great therapist to turn to when life becomes challenging, complicated or when you need someone to help you navigate life’s inevitable changes or demands that you grow as a person. If you’re struggling in your relationships; or depression and anxiety are making life way too difficult, Ilene can be a great ally in your journey to a better life.
– Dave T.

“I experienced profound changes…”

“I experienced profound changes, in my relationship with my husband and the people I work with. Nothing short of amazing. “
– S.G.

“an amazing therapist!…”

“Ilene is an amazing therapist! She is very intuitive and is able to ask questions that get right to the heart of what the issue is. Her drama therapy workshops are soooooo worth it.”
– Glenna Rice

“Made a critical difference in my life…”

“I have tried several therapists. Ilene’s sessions made a critical difference in my life. Ilene cares deeply and helped me build trust back into my relationships.
Ilene has helped my family beyond the regular measures. I recommend Ilene Wolf, MFT, RDT, I know she can help where most others fail.”
– R.A.